sometimes i wonder why girls pursue education and career so much.. i guess it all voices down to the choice of lifestyle that you want to have in the future. but there are different types of results.
1. choosing career over children. which is what my mum chose. the end result is that there is not much family bonding and stress is prevalent in the house, cos both the husband and wife come home with working troubles.
not forgetting the constant problems that having a maid brings. my siblings n i hv had maids all our lives and i will never have a maid in my own family. so many problems arise just from having one, that finally my mum is so tired of them she doesnt want one anymore and has decided to become a part time housewife, haha. cos she still is doing her business part time. the last straw was that the last maid used my mum's hp to call her family in secret.
actually i really pity maids.. it's not easy to come to a foreign country and not be able to see their relatives for such a long time. plus the fact that the agencies are very harsh on them... do you know that usually their contracts with employers are 2 years, but the first year is used to pay the agency back.. so effectively they work for 1 year for nothing. and when they are waiting for employers to choose them in the agency, they are given instant noodles or plain rice with vege to eat almost everyday. and if they are employed for, lets say, 3 months, but trouble arises and the employer takes the maid back to the agency, the maid has to restart that 1 year of payment to the agency all over again?
every maid we got is the same... begining she will be very hardworking, but a few months go by and troubles come up.. hai... maybe that's why i dont really like to crowd myself with alot of friends, hahaha. everytime get attached to the current maid, then for some weird reason my mum sends her back to agency.. end up it's been ingrained in me since young not to be so emotionally attached to many people.. i guess that's y throughout my life, ive had one good friend each in primary, sec and poly only. haha. not to say i dont hv other friends la.. but 1 good friend is enough to make me contented le.haha.
but anyways, about women and career.. 18 years with her oldest child has been lost. and hence now im finding it hard to relate to her as a mum.. not cos she hasnt been doing her duty as a mum, but rather that for all those years we couldnt tell her anything without it backlashing on us when she gets stressed...
hence im wondering how come women these days are putting their career before their children.. maybe to me it's very straightforward; you can only give your heart and energy to one. no harm having a part time job as side income, but working so hard to build up your career and earn alot of money, but in the end you have an empty family, makes no sense.. then again, if the girl does not pursue a career, then all the education spent on her would be wasted? haha.
oh well im just having many random thoughts. XD
thank God im healing... it's really been some painful months..
